There is a basic principle that everyone has and that is WIIFM. This means, whats in it for me. The answer to that question is determined by asking what does everyone want, and need? We do not always get what we want, nor do we always know what we need. But this one word can change you forever. Once you find it, you will never want to leave its source wherever you find it. It will make you happy, change your vision. It will make you do things that you didn't even know that you are capable of. You will never stop wanting it until you are consumed by it. You will never grow tired of it. It will bring out the best in you. It will be contagious, and others will want to have it, too! It will energize you, and you will be illumined and focused.
You've probably guessed it by now. The word is love. God is love. Love is immeasurable and unending. Love is the greatest gift of all and a joy unspeakable.
How do we find love and where do we go? We go to the source. God, who is faithful to us invites us into the fellowship of His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord, whose desire it is to fill us with all good things.
First rule, is humility. You must become needy. Empty the cup, wanting it to be filled with the love you seek. You can't hear when your doing all the talking because you have all the answers. God knows what your need is. (James 4:10)"Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up." (6)"God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble."
If you have not love, you are a clanging bell. Just making noise--an annoying distraction. A turn-off. You can not have "Love" without God. (1John4:12) "No one has seen God at any time. If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love has been perfected in us."
I have often heard others say, that change begin with me. (Be the change that you want to see in other's) If you want to be loved by others, you must learn to "love" (first). That might require you to change. Change, with the help of God, because often, we cannot see ourselves being blindsighted by our pride. Often, we discover ourselves "through the eyes of others". Separating from others leaves us lonely and needy and we seek to be loved. Remember, God loved us first. We are following His example. Love requires that we look "within," beyond the package. He does not make junk. Find value in others, uplift them and the reward will come back to you. Yes, it will require "work."
Why are we so afraid to love? In becoming a loving individual, you will be loved. WIIFM? True happiness...Do you want to be happy?
(reference for scriptures--The Orthodox Study Bible)
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