We're taught to be tough. Sometimes we appear that way even when we don't feel that way at all. The fact is, that we, for the most part, are very good actors. Only those who know us are not fooled by our expression, voice and by the things we say and do.
When it comes to the pool many are afraid of the water, they are the ones who sit around the pool and do not go in for a dip. We often hide our feelings and find some words hard to express, and that is more prevalent in men than women, young Nate is no different.
On Monday, when he was playing he mentioned that he was going for swimming lessons and quickly added, that he was afraid. That was a brave statement as most will never admit to that. So I said it was okay to feel that way, and as he gets older, he may not always have those feelings, and said that there are others who also are scared of the water. It was brief, and yet something that needed to be said, that took a lot of courage on his part.
The phone rang and on the other end was a proud father of his son, on their way home from the Y, saying that he didn't cry today and didn't seem to be afraid.He jumped right in and began swimming. It was probably the dog paddle. I spoke with Nathan on the phone and he was very proud of his achievement. He also mentioned the reward he was promised.
Several years ago, I took a course that introduced me to a new word. The teacher said it pertained to and worked for all. WIFM--Whats in it for me. It works like a charm, sets a positive picture in setting goals,-- desiring to completion. Everyone wants something bad enough.
Positive reinforcement, a happy and successful goal-setting child with his eye on the prize, and a proud father. All in one day!
All it took was the promise of a root beer. Congrats Nathan, I knew you could do it.
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