See Grandma, my eyes are really dark blue....not big brown ones like daddy

See Grandma, my eyes are really dark blue....not big brown ones like daddy

Ryan and friend

Ryan and friend
Mommy, Daddy, I'm saying Hi to Grandma?

This one is for you, Grandma!

Nathan

Nathan
soccer with determination and no airplane distractions

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Growing Angry

Anger is part of who we are. In other words, this emotion is part of our creation. Anger is a lot different than one saying, Oh Shit! You know what I'm talking about.

I have been surrounded by angry people all of my life, and I think it is the most destructive force in the life of a man. His displaced anger, if used the way it was intended, like for defense, it would serve well.

While it is okay that we have anger, it is not okay to grow angry without a cause. There is holy anger, as Jesus demonstrated, when overturning the money changers.

The bible tells us in (Ephesians 4:26), "Be angry and do not sin." The problem with anger is that it will grow and fester in us, and if not dealt with, it will cause us to perhaps, say or do things we may be sorry for. Or, if the anger within develops enough, we may take it one step further. Anger leads to destruction.

It may be a self anger, at your weakness, or what you did or failed to do. Maybe someone has invoked you, the result, being how you feel. Do you have to make a production out of everything?

Deal with it. Deal with it before it destroys you. You can become an angry person, someone not pleasant to be with. Short tempered, snappy, and in some cases loud. No one will want to be with you. They will grow to fear you, or dislike you, not knowing when you will have your next fit, smashing or pounding things, accompanied with the colorful language, people who know you, have come to expect..

Did you ever consider what anger is doing to your health? I know someone who yelled so loudly, that the adrenal level was raised to a point that there was a concern of having a heart attack. It is so not worth it.

I recently saw a nurse deal with a person who was acting out, in a small way. She told that person to take a deep breath. I thought that was a very good thing to say. My mom used to say count to ten. I always said take a moment, (control yourself). Think of what your doing. Things happen in life, don't go ballistic. You can get to a point where you will lose control, then what?

Some people seem more high strung than others. Make-up, maybe, or perhaps it builds, until we act out with every "little thing." We are responsible for our actions, even what we say when it "just blurts out," and, "how it affects others around us."
It is part of what you learn growing up, "how to control yourself." But, sometimes punishment makes you even more angry.

This is what (St. John Chrysostom said),"Be angry with the devil and not your own member. This is why God has armed us with anger. Not that we should thrust the sword against our own bodies, but that we should baptize the whole blade in the devil's breast."

Anger is destructive so why not try "Peace," it is what Jesus said so often in the scriptures.
Peace is a gift of the Holy Spirit. Pray for peace of mind.
Relax, nothing is going to happen to you that God doesn't know about. So, "Be of Good Cheer!" Let go and let God.

It is said, that every time you get angry, you take years off your life. Maybe, it is time to consider unloading those negative feelings to someone out there, like a priest. I'm sure he knows just what your talking about.

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