Sex with a double standard

Everyone that reads the bible and especially those who read it for the second time, usually find that now they can relate to, if they are reading the old testament, the new testament. Or, they may have questions that didn't occur to them before. Is there a double standard. One for men and one for women? Lets examine the evidence.

For an example, in Genesis 38, (taken from the Orthodox Study Bible), Judah is informed that his daughter-in-law has committed fornication and is pregnant because of her adultery. (of course we know it takes two to tango.)
This is what the notes at the bottom of the page say on (38:24) "Those who reported to Judah viewed fornication and adultery as one and the same sin. For some say fornication is sin committed by single people, whereas adultery is committed by married people. Both fornication and adultery, however, are one and the same sin. " 39:9. "Joseph viewed adultery and/or fornication as great wickedness and sin against God."
According to Judah she was to be burned. I'm confused! Didn't that sin fall on Judah as well?

It is strange that the word prostitute did not appear in the Glossary, nor did I find a reference for it in the Index.
The word prostitute is mentioned again in Gen.Chapter 34:31 "But they said,"Should he treat our sister like a prostitute?"Yet, they slain, & plundered the city.

It is clear to me that there were prostitutes that were different than the ones we know of today. Were they also thought of as promiscuous? They are still ill-used and paid off. Must have been that way then too because Judah could not deliver the goat.

It is becomes clear in Gen.Chapter 38:14"Thus she took off her widow's garments, covered herself with veil, made herself beautiful, and sat down near the gates of Ainan on the way past Timnah; for she saw Shelah was grown, and she was not given to him as a wife." (15)"When Judah saw her, he thought she was a prostitute, because she had covered her face and did not recognize her." (16)"Then he turned to her by the way, and said, "Let me come in to you;" Later he returned and was looking for her, asking the men where she was. (21). "Where is the prostitute who was in Ainan by the roadside?" They replied, "There was no prostitute here."

They discovered her pregnancy. She wisely had evidence. Nothing happened to her. Still, it makes one wonder. Did they have sex while she was veiled? Otherwise, he would have known it was her. How did she make herself beautiful? We will never know. But it appeared okay for men to have sex with a prostitute. Yet isn't that fornication? It certainly was not her looks sought after, and what about her, it was premeditated. Her prize, twin sons. No mention of a husband, and certainly it is reported that "he never knew her again." (Meaning Judah).

The missing word in all this is "Love."

On Thursday, I will be in Washington, DC. Marching for Life. Even if love were not present and conception begins, your love is what matters. Things do not always go as we plan them in this lifetime, and sometimes it is hard to make the right decision, but the only mistake I can think of is in thinking that life does not matter, because it does. Your baby may be the only true love you'll even know. And, they will be grateful for the chance that you gave them to live. Know one else can give them that.